Becoming You
fOR WOMEN WHO HAVE ALREADY DONE THE INNER WORK AND ARE READY TO STOP UNDERSTANDING THEIR PATTERNS AND TO FINALLY CHANGE THEM
A 3-month journey
back to Your Body, To Your Emotions And
to Your Inner Authority
You've learned how to hold everything togegher
At work you're competent, dependable, the one people bring the hard problems to. In your relationship you're the one who manages the logistics, smooths the tension, holds the emotional weight for everyone else. With your kids, your friends, your colleagues , you show up. Fully. Every time.
And nobody sees what it costs you.
The crying in the toilet cubicle at work, three minutes before you have to walk back out and answer emails. The argument that lasted twenty minutes that you're still replaying four days later until you've convinced yourself it was probably your fault. The moment your partner's mood shifts and your whole nervous system goes with it. The yes you said when every part of you meant no, and the resentment that's been building quietly ever since.
You’re holding it together… just.
But something is leaking and your emotions keep spilling out. The reaction that was too big for what happened. The tears that came from nowhere at completely the wrong moment. The explosion at someone who didn't deserve it, followed by the guilt that takes longer to shake than the explosion itself.
You've done the work. You know your patterns. You've been to therapy, tried yoga, read the books, understand your attachment style, can trace the people-pleasing back to where it started.
And you're still here.
Here is what nobody has told you yet
Here's what nobody has told you yet.
Everything you've tried has worked from the head down — understanding the pattern, naming the wound, deciding to do it differently next time.
The therapy gave you language. You could name what was happening, trace it back, understand where it came from. But understanding a pattern and being able to change it are two completely different things. You know this. You can explain exactly why you people-please and you still can't stop doing it in the moment.
The yoga calmed your nervous system. For an hour you felt like yourself. Then you walked back into your life and within twenty minutes the tension was back in your shoulders.
The emotion isn't in your head. It's in your body. Stored in your nervous system, your muscles, your throat that won't let you speak when you need to, your chest that tightens before a difficult conversation, your stomach that knows something is wrong long before your mind catches up.
When emotion doesn't get to move through the body, it stays. It accumulates. It waits for the next available exit... which doesn't have to be big, because it's carrying everything that came before it. That's why the reaction is always bigger than the situation. That's why you can be fine, fine, fine... and then not fine at all, in the toilet cubicle, with three minutes before you have to go back out.
You're not too emotional or too sensitive. Your body is simply full to bursting.
What you need isn't more understanding. It's somewhere for it to go.
i see you
I know this because it's my story too.
I was an HR manager at an investment company. Going through a divorce. My mother declining with Parkinson's. Three kids. Holding everything together for everyone, all the time.
And telling myself every single morning that I was in a recovery phase.
I was crying every morning. Sleeping the moment I could. I started smoking cigarettes, not because I wanted to, because I wanted to feel numb. That's how full I was. I couldn't make myself get on the yoga mat because I was too unsettled to be still.
I understood my patterns. I'd done the therapy. I knew I needed to say no more. I still couldn't do it. Because my body didn't feel safe enough to do something different, no matter what my mind had worked out.
When I found somatic movement, something reached a place nothing else had.
During a session I started having flashes of myself as a child, scared of my mother being angry with me. I understood, through my body rather than through analysis, that all the people-pleasing had ever been about was not losing the people I loved. Not as a concept. As something I actually felt, in my body, in that session.
And I realised I could be the source of that love myself.
My throat unblocked. I could speak. I could finally make choices I hadn't even thought were possible for me.
That's what becomes possible when the emotion moves.
Our journey together
The 3 Thresholds
Becoming You is a three-month private coaching journey, shaped around you and what you are navigating.
The three thresholds below provide the foundation for our work together, but this isn't a rigid curriculum. We follow what is alive for you, integrating coaching, somatic and emotional work, movement and embodiment practices according to what you need.
Threshold 1: YOUR BODY AS YOUR SAFE HAVEN
From living in your head → feeling safe in your body
By the end of the first month, you'll notice yourself catching the tension before it takes over.
Instead of snapping and wondering afterwards what happened, you'll recognise the tightness in your chest, the clenched jaw, the racing thoughts, and know how to bring yourself back before your nervous system takes control.
You'll stop pushing through every signal your body sends you and begin trusting it instead.
That's where we start.
Most women who arrive here have spent years living almost entirely from the neck up. They've analysed themselves brilliantly but lost touch with what their body has been trying to tell them all along.
So before we explore emotions, we build safety.
We meet twice a month for a 90-minute private session. Each session is shaped around what is present for you, weaving together coaching, somatic exploration, emotional work and movement where appropriate. Between sessions, you'll have practices and reflections to help you integrate the work into your everyday life.
A typical session begins with a short check-in before I guide you through gentle somatic movement and body awareness. There's no choreography to learn and no performance. The movement is simple, guided and designed to help your body process what your mind has been carrying.
Everything else grows from this foundation.
What becomes possible:
- being truly present, noticing the beauty in yourself and around you, not just what needs fixing
- catching yourself before you snap - and knowing exactly what to do in that moment
- reconnecting with your inner signals instead of overriding them
- staying with yourself under pressure, instead of abandoning yourself to keep the peace
This is where the journey begins. Everything that follows, grows from here.
Threshold 2: EMOTIONS AS A GUIDE
From managing your emotions → being guided by them
The argument that used to stay with you for four days no longer follows you around all week.
You feel anger before it turns into tears.
You recognise resentment before it becomes an explosion.
You stop fearing your emotions because you finally understand what they're trying to tell you.
With the safety of the first month in place, we begin working with the emotions that have been waiting underneath. The people-pleasing. The grief. The anger that never felt safe enough to express.
Instead of analysing those emotions, we let the body complete what it couldn't complete at the time.
This is how I discovered that my own people-pleasing wasn't weakness. It was my body's way of protecting the relationships that mattered most.
When emotions are allowed to move rather than stay trapped, they stop running your life from the background.
By the end of this threshold you'll begin responding to situations in proportion to what's actually happening, instead of carrying the weight of everything that came before.
What becomes possible:
- feeling sadness without spending three days recovering from it
- feeling anger and knowing exactly what it's asking of you
- knowing what you actually think, without polling everyone else first
- letting your boundaries arise from within, instead of forcing them from willpower
This is where you stop fighting yourself, and start listening.
Threshold 3: your INNER authority
From decisions made from fear → choices made from trust
You say no without rehearsing the conversation for three days.
You stop absorbing everyone else's moods.
You make decisions because they're right for you, not because they keep everyone else comfortable.
You still feel fear. You simply stop letting fear make the decisions.
Once your body feels like home and your emotions can move freely, the noise quiets. You begin hearing your own voice again.
Only now do we turn our attention to vision, boundaries and decision-making. Not because these things matter more, but because now your body is finally in a position to support them.
Women who do this work find themselves ending things they'd been tolerating for years. Not because they forced themselves to. Because they finally trusted what they already knew.
The programme doesn't give you a version of yourself you'll have to keep trying to become. It gives you a way back to yourself whenever life pulls you away again.
What becomes possible:
- turning down the impressive opportunity that feels wrong - without two weeks of second-guessing
- starting the thing you've been circling for years
- asking for what you need without a three-paragraph justification
- making courageous choices - because when you've got yourself, nothing stops you
Becoming You is not about becoming invulnerable.
It is about coming home yourself so fully that you trust what you find there.
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Who This Journey Is For
You are capable, driven, and more emotionally sensitive than most people around you realise
You've done the inner work. Therapy, coaching, yoga, personal development... You know your patterns well enough to explain them to someone else. And you're still in them.
You show up at work, in your relationships, for your kids. Nobody looking at your life from the outside would know how much it's costing you. But you know. And you're tired of knowing and not being able to shift it.
You are highly sensitive and you have always felt things more deeply than the people around you seem to. You've spent a long time wondering if that's a problem. It isn't. But it does mean you need something different from what most programs offer.
You want change that goes deeper than productivity strategies or mindset work can reach
You're open to movement. You don't need to know what somatic work is or have any experience of it. You just need to be willing to try something that works from the body up.
MEET your spaceholder
About me
I'm Ilaria - somatic and emotional coach, Mana Movement teacher, and the woman who has walked these three thresholds herself.
I know this path from the inside.
I have navigated grief, divorce, burnout, and the slow unravelling of a life that looked right from the outside but had stopped feeling true.
I spent years trying to think my way through, until I finally came back to my body. That was the moment everything became possible again.
For several years I worked as an HR Business Partner in international organisations. I understand what it means to be high-functioning and quietly falling apart at the same time.
Now I guide women through the same thresholds I have walked myself: with Mana Movement, somatic coaching, and a commitment to creating space where nothing needs to be performed or held back - where all of you is welcome.
Mana Movement and Embodied Movement Teacher
Hatha Yoga Teacher
Co-Active Coach
15 years of HR experience in international corporations
Mum of 3
becoming you
FROM SURVIVING TO BECOMING THE LEADER OF YOUR LIFE
The Journey Includes:
6 private 90-minute sessions with me over three months
A dedicated space every two weeks to work with what is actually happening in your life. Our sessions weave together coaching, somatic and emotional work, movement and embodiment practices, depending on what you need.
Access to the Becoming You practice library
Throughout our three months together, you'll have access to a growing library of guided somatic, movement and embodiment practices designed around the three Becoming You thresholds.
These practices give you a way to continue the work between our sessions , in your own time and at your own pace, so that what we explore together can gradually become something you experience and embody in your everyday life.
I'll guide you towards the practices that are most relevant to what we're working with, rather than giving you more things to complete.
A journey shaped around you
The three Becoming You thresholds give us a foundation for our work together. But this is not a rigid programme. We follow your experience, your patterns, your pace and what is most alive for you.
Along the way, I may also offer reflections, journaling prompts or simple experiments specifically chosen to support what we are exploring together.
Integration Support between our sessions
After each session, you will receive a detailed integration email with reflections, prompts and practice suggestions tailored to what we explored together.
You can also reach out to me on WhatsApp between sessions to share what is coming up, ask a question or receive additional support as you integrate the work into your everyday life.
Ready to begin?
The Next step
Because this work is deeply personal, I don't ask you to decide whether it's right for you from a webpage.
The first step is a conversation.
Together, we'll explore where you are now, what you're navigating, what you would love to be different - and whether this journey feels like the right support for you.
If we've already had that conversation and I've invited you to work with me, take some time to let everything we discussed settle.
This isn't a decision you need to force.
It's an invitation to ask yourself whether you're ready to stop trying to create this change alone, and to give yourself three months of dedicated support to begin living it differently.
HERE ARE SOME COMMON QUESTIONS YOU MIGHT HAVE ↓
Frequently Asked Questions
Is every Becoming You journey the same?
No. The three thresholds give our work a foundation, but your journey is entirely personal.
We might spend more time working with your relationship with your body and nervous system, with emotions you've learned to suppress, with boundaries, self-trust, relationships, decisions or the way you take up space in your life.
We follow what emerges for you rather than trying to fit your experience into a predetermined curriculum.
Do I need any experience with somatic work or embodiment?
Not at all. You don't need to know what somatic work is or have any experience with movement.
You only need to be curious about exploring a different way of working: one that includes your body rather than relying on your mind alone.
What happens in a session?
No two sessions are exactly the same.
We begin with where you are and what is present for you. From there, I may draw on coaching, body awareness, somatic exploration, emotional work, breath, movement or embodiment practices.
How much time will I need between sessions?
This work is designed to become part of your life rather than another thing you have to accomplish.
I'll offer practices and reflections between sessions, but we will find a rhythm that is realistic for you. Even short, regular moments of practice can begin changing the way you meet yourself in everyday situations.
What kind of support will I receive between sessions?
After each session, you will receive a detailed integration email with reflections, prompts and practice suggestions tailored to what we explored together. You can also reach out to me via WhatsApp between our sessions to share what is coming up, ask for support or let me know about something significant you're noticing.
This allows our work to continue unfolding in your actual life, not only during the hours we spend together.
Is this trauma therapy?
No. This is somatic coaching and embodiment work. I am trauma-informed, but I am not a therapist or trauma specialist, and this work is not a substitute for therapeutic or medical support.
If you are currently experiencing a mental health crisis or need specialist trauma treatment, I encourage you to seek appropriate professional support.
I am interested, but not sure I'm ready. What should I do?
That's exactly what our initial conversation is for.
There is no pressure to arrive knowing whether you want to work together. We'll explore what's happening, what you're longing for and what has been keeping you where you are.
From there, we can both feel whether working together is the right next step.
let's connect
Becoming You isn't about fixing yourself or becoming someone else.
It's about building a relationship with yourself strong enough that you know that whatever happens, you've got you, and you can make choices that are truly yours
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Not because fear disappears.
Not because life becomes predictable.
But because, increasingly, you know how to stay with yourself through it.
